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Doing what scares you

The good news is that we have accepted an offer on our place.  The fingers will not be uncrossed until Sunday, if/when the subjects are removed, but the situation looks good.

And bad.  It’s a real emotional roller coaster.  I’m glad we can move on with our plans, but I’m sad that we are leaving the place we love so much.  I’m excited about our plans, but I’m apprehensive about all the things I have to get done.  Plus I’m scared.

So why am I so unnerved?

Because I don’t do change very well.  I stay in the same job (11 years in my previous job).  I live in one place (14 years in a housing co-op before I moved here 13 years ago).  I even wear the same clothes year after year.

Momentum, even forward momentum, is a little scary for me.  And that’s one of the reasons why I have to do this.

This change is not just going to be a new address — not even a new size and shape of home.  It’s going to be living with less stuff (my comfortable layer of stuff), saving more money, little changes that lead to big changes like more travel and yes, adventure. One tiny step at a time I am moving my life in a whole new direction.

So I want to know — how do other people handle change?  In this article at Wise Bread, one of the most important things to remember is

Remember That It’s Okay To Be Scared

Trying new things is exhilarating for some, scary for others. Whether you are truly thrilled or massively intimidated, don’t let (irrational) fear stop you.

It’s also good to remember something I learned a long time ago and had somehow forgotten: In life, as in riding roller-coasters, it’s good to know you are safe, but if you’re not a little scared it’s just not as much fun.

Decluttering — does it ever end?

Keeping in mind our new lifestyle — less is best — I am continuing to toss stuff right, left and centre.  But it’s not without pain.

I look at things and think “I can’t throw this out — it has too much value.” But then I wonder if it only has value because I’m imbuing it with the value I think it should have.  Sounds complicated (Oh. I. Am. Complicated.) but what I’m saying is this, “I don’t own crap, I own valuable objects. I own it, therefore it has value.”

But then I say “Don’t be an idiot.  Toss it.”

Now I have found support in this article at Houzz.

It’s okay to feel pain, and worry, and concern and anxiousness.  That’s normal.  But it’s IMPORTANT to move beyond that.

The truth is, as you declutter, you will probably make mistakes. You will almost certainly get rid of things you’ll later regret, but I’m here to tell you it’s going to be all right. Don’t let the fear of potential regrets get in the way of a new lightness and freedom.

And if you are feeling overwhelmed?  Get help.

Now, who do I know with that kind of organizational skills?

(Of course I’ll have to clean out my closets before I let them look through them).

A visit to the Home Discovery Show

I had another chat with Ian and Steve at the Home Discovery Show .  I followed their chat with Melissa of The Thirties Grind, who coincidentally had a post last week about laneway homes that I left a comment on. The circle of life.

Ian and I talked about the garden plans for the laneway, what the City of Vancouver expects of us, and about the living roof we plan to install.

We are very lucky, when we told our builder, Novell, that we wanted to put in a living roof, they assured us that they are qualified installers of LiveRoof — complete system of plants plus growing medium to give you the roof you want.

Roof

 

It’s truly a garden on your roof, and it’s installed in such a way that it protects your roof from the very harmful rays of the sun, which eventually break down the membrane on regular roofs.

Ian was also kind enough to mention my Celt in a Twist podcast, and the fact that we’ve been nominated for an award on About.com.

About.com 2013 Readers' Choice Awards

Just a friendly reminder that you can vote here for the show every day until March 19 in the About.com Readers’ Choice Awards. And maybe for St. Patrick’s Day, you’ll want to hear the show itself.  You can find out more about it at Calcopyrite.com.

Hear ye, hear ye — another visit to the Home Discovery Show

Be sure to be listening to the Home Discovery Show tomorrow morning.

I’ll be talking to Ian and Steve about our building of the laneway home.  I visit every couple of weeks — and I love the intro they’ve made for “my” segment!

Friends collaborate on vacation retreats — 350 square foot each

Hands up everyone who had a vacation cabin on a lake!

Anyone?  When I was a kid it was no big deal for a family to have a cabin on Christina Lake.  (Yes, I was one of the luckiest kids on earth.  I still am.)

Christina

Our handy-man Dad built two cabins, an a-frame, then we sold that and he built one with a flat roof. They were built on land leased from the government, on the west side of the lake — that is, the side with no road.  Every board, every nail, the wood stove and every stick of furniture had to be loaded onto the boat or made into a raft that could be towed.  A lot of the materials were salvaged from shacks that the railway was tearing down.  We spent every weekend away from the heat of our BC interior house, in the beautiful cool woods and warm water of Christina Lake.

Those cabins have been passed on to other families to enjoy, and I hope they love the memories of those halcyon days as much as I do.  But I’ve always thought a cabin retreat, far from one’s daily life, is a wonderful thing.  It doesn’t have to be large, and the less fuss required to keep it up the better.  Just something the whole family can enjoy.

Four Texas families had the same idea, and built their vacation homes close together.

The woods are a little sparser than those of my childhood, and the river is nothing like that beautiful pristine lake.  But they have the rustic charm I remember (although we did without electricity.  And running water.)

And they are small.  To me, a real get-away does not include extensive housekeeping.  A quick sweep-out, an occasional dusting.  Cabins are for relaxing.

Green Builders — an emerging force for laneway homes

A new organization called the EGB — Emerging Green Builders of  Metro Vancouver are inviting the general public to an information session on laneway homes on March 20.

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Find out more and register for the event at their website.

A draft of the new laneway home regulations is available….

Thanks to the nice people at Lanefab for tipping us off to the news that the proposed amendments to the laneway housing program are available as a pdf.

Go here to read all about it.

I’m all for them, but since our designer has already gone through the intake process at city hall, these are unlikely to affect our project. Which is good, because we have already got our plans at such an advanced state.

 

Guest Post: Getting the Backyard Ready for a House

Hi folks,

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The new hedge location.

It’s me, DD (dear daughter, of “Main House”). I’ve been enjoying reading my mom’s posts about her purging and planning and prepping. We’ve been busy at the main house too, so I thought I’d contribute a little about what’s been happening on our property as we prepare for the new structure.

We’re actually very fortunate that the majority of our backyard is a concrete parking pad. The excavator will take care of that. On the other hand, having an excavator arrive on our back doorstep will have quite an impact. We do have some yard, and it’s populated by some great plants: boxwoods, rhododendrons, heathers, a firebush, a wisteria, a fig … we have a lot of creepers.

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Mapoleon in his new spot. The first question DH asked was “won’t their branches get all tangled up?” Yes. Probably. Fine.

Our first plan was to simply transplant everything to the front yard and create an amazing garden up there. We hit a couple of roadblocks. First, the city won’t let the laneway house pull water service from the back alley – so our contractors are going to have to chop up our front lawn. They'[re going to run a bobcat up there and dig, dig, dig. Second, we are planning to re-do the front of the house in the next few years (including weeping tile) so we can’t really create permanent gardens of awesomeness. Anything not touched this round will be squished during that phase of renovations.

So for now, a compromise. First we moved Mapoleon, our miniature Japanese maple, from his spot directly in the path of the new water line. Yes, we moved him under another tree, and yes, there will be some branch negotiations. It’s really the only spot that was free.

We’re going to re-home some of the boxwoods to a new sidewalk hedge (leaving a 40″ space for the bobcat), and put the rest in pots on our deck and nooks and crannies out front. The contractors are going to lay weeping tile (drain tile) along the water line trench they dig on the West and South sides of the house. (The front and East sides will be covered by a future project). And we will have to get used to moving our plants to and fro until all the projects are complete.

Easy peasy? Not exactly. The goal with the Main House is to do as much ourselves as possible. But over the last weekend we learned we’re not landscapers. Here are some challenges we experienced:

Only one person can work at a time, because we have a toddler.

Root balls are massive. And heavy. We’re strong but. Really, they’re heavy.

Stripping sod is hard work, especially as you have to haul away the heavy sod somewhere else.

A wheelbarrow will not work if the tire is flat. (Did I mention we’re not professionals? We’re not even really amateurs.)

It rains a lot in Vancouver. So far we have timed every move to the rainiest possible moment. The bonus is the plants need moisture for successful transplantation. I guess there’s that.

We’re wet, sore, tired and we’ve barely begun. That said, it’s worth it to save our (sentimental and expensive) plants. We’d just caution other homeowners undertaking a secondary dwelling to budget for a landscaper to transplant for them … or budget a lot of blood, sweat, and tears to make it happen.

The Vancouver Sun’s Shelley Fralic features our story in the paper!

My great-grannie always said that a lady should have her name in the paper 3 times in her life — when she is born, when she married, and when she died.

But great-grannie did not know of what she spoke. Because this morning I got a huge charge looking at page 3 of the Vancouver Sun to see myself looking back!

Columnist Shelley Fralic wrote the story “Meet the Lady Who Lives Down the Lane” after meeting with DD, our builder Laurel and I last week.  She had heard about the blog on The Home Discovery Show and thought her readers would be interested in our story.

Be sure to check out the story.  I am quite chuffed about this sudden celebrity.

Let’s see — radio, now newspaper.  Who should I get to play me in the movie of my life?

Toss it – the continuing story

Our laneway is being built with maximum storage.  Under the bed.  Under the stairs.  In the walls.  Shelves and cupboards everywhere. But we will still have to get rid of a lot of our stuff.  From one hall closet full of clothes and one linen closet full of sheets and towels we are going down to…..nothing.  A few essentials stashed under the bed.

Junk must roll!

So far, in our winnowing process, I realize that I have belongings in “keep” and “toss” categories — but also in a third category — “stuff I know I should toss but just can’t bring myself to”.  Because darn it, it’s the sort of thing that makes you want to end a sentence in a preposition!

I look at this as a process, a journey as it were, to a tidy small home.  And that journey is made up of small steps.

Because we have to keep the place clutter-free for the viewings for potential buyers, I’m getting used to seeing my kitchen counters clear of small appliances.  I had to clear out a cupboard to make room for those appliances to be stored, and that meant tossing or giving away about 8 cubic feet of “precious” belongings.  They were some of the first things to go, and I can’t even remember what they were. I just thought they were important to me. But I realize that having a detritus-free counter is more important to me than those things I tossed.

We are going to live a much more minimal life.  If there is one thing the design process has taught me is that there has to be a reason for everything we have — our belongings have to earn their keep.

I’ve got some on-line support from houzz.com along the way to that minimalist life.

To me, the biggest obstacle to overcome is

4. “I paid a lot of money for it.”

Boy, truer words were seldom spoken.  I have an Australian oilcloth raincoat hanging in my hall closet, as it has hung in various closets over the past 20 years.  It’s not my style, but I paid a lot of money for it, and I just figured that someday someONE would want it.  But no one ever has.  I thought I should sell it, but it seems like such a hassle.  And who would want it?

That coat is destined for Big Brothers.

BTW, Big Brothers and other charities are friends to the de-clutterer.  Whenever they call to ask for donations say yes.  You will then have a commitment to remove some stuff from your life.

So I will continue to throw things away and give things away.  No more hiding things away.  To quote the above article

Life, like art, is all about removing and editing to make room for what you truly want and need.

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